So you’ve got her number. Now what? Many guys either text too much or too little. The secret is balance and making your messages matter.
Start with context. Refer back to something you talked about. “Hey, I looked up that band you mentioned—they’re amazing!” This shows you were listening and builds continuity.
Avoid generic texts like “Hey” or “What’s up?” They often lead to dead-end conversations. Instead, ask interesting, open-ended questions. “What’s your dream travel destination?” or “What’s something you’ve always wanted to try but haven’t yet?” These invite her to open up.
Don’t overthink your responses. Keep it light, positive, and playful. You don’t need to be Shakespeare, but a little creativity shows effort. Emojis are fine—but use them sparingly.
Also, respect her rhythm. If she replies slowly, match her pace. Don’t bombard her with follow-ups. She might be busy, or maybe she’s not interested—and that’s okay too. Pushing won’t help.
Use texting to build anticipation, not as a replacement for real interaction. Suggest meeting up for coffee or a walk when the vibe feels right. Something casual, low-pressure.
Remember, texting is a tool for connection—not validation. If you treat it like a conversation, not a performance, you’re more likely to succeed.
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